Not Yet Mommy

The long journey towards parenthood…

Sunday Savings July 25, 2010

Filed under: Savings Angel,Savings Sunday — Stephanie Marie @ 4:11 pm

I’m going to try to segment my blog a little bit more, so I’m going to participate in a few weekly rituals, the first of which will be Sunday Savings. Like many families that are suffering in this terrible economy, my husband and I have been looking for ways to save money and I have decided that we will save the most by saving on food. I use Savings Angel (my reference number is 31920 in case you would like to join up. I believe that the deal is, if you join using my affiliate number then you’ll receive a free thirty days with your first paid thirty days. You figure that’s $20 back in your pocket from the get go, and I routinely make up the twenty dollars I spend on my membership during my first shopping trip of the month), which is a program that looks through ads for you and matches up online and paper coupons so you can get the best deal possible.

Normally I save about $100 a shopping trip (no joke!), but since we’re leaving for a week on Wednesday, this shopping trip was not as large. Despite not saving as much as I normally would, I still got some awesome deals and I more than made up for my membership fee this trip (though I made up for it on my last trip as well).

Here’s what I got:

Item                                                                                                Original Price What I paid
(1)Twizzler’s Pull N Peel Family Pack (My Vice)                        $2.49 $1.99
(3)Nature’s Valley Nut Clusters                                                        $9.12 $6.12
(2)Nature’s Valley Honey Oat Granola Bars                               $5.28 $3.28
(10)Smart Ones Meals (Hubband’s Work Meals)                    $29.90 $15.00
(3)12 packs of 12oz Pepsi Products                                             $13.49 $7.00
(10)Sobe Life Waters                                                                          $12.00 $7.00
(4)Kashi Fruit and Nut Bars                                                             $10.00 $3.49
(2)Kashi Cookies (Yum!)                                                                      $5.00 $1.66
(2)Loaves of Garlic Bread                                                                    $5.00 $4.00
(2)Packages of Bratwurst                                                                      $9.98 $6.00
(2)Blue Bunny Ice Cream Bars                                                            $7.98 $2.99
(2)Starbucks Java Chip Ice Cream                                                   $7.98 $1.99
(11)Boxes of Ronzoni Pasta                                                               $30.14 $8.14
(4)Jars of Prego Spaghetti Sauce                                                    $10.36 $6.36
(2)Jars of Ragu Alfredo Sauce                                                            $5.18 $5.18
(2)Bottles of Lysol Toilet Cleaner                                                      $5.58 $0.79
Total                                                                                                        $169.48 $80.99

That’s a total savings of $88.49! Granted, some of that stuff is not needed by us this week as we’ll be gone, however some of it was just too good of a deal to pass up and it keeps me from having to get it later on (i.e., the pasta and the toilet bowl cleaner), and some of it we’ll take with us as snacks for the road (i.e., some of the Kashi products and the Nature’s Valley bars). I love that we’re not only saving money on what we eat, but we’re also saving on name brands, so we can eat what we really like eating and can “splurge” a little bit, while still saving tons of money. Also, the most amazing part about this savings is that this is the norm– I almost always save more than I spend and it’s a significant savings!


Catchin’ Crap July 24, 2010

Filed under: Dirty Diaper Laundry,Links — Stephanie Marie @ 10:25 pm

When I was younger I never thought about what I would wrap around my future child’s butt to catch his or her waste, and I’m pretty sure that most people don’t really put a lot of thought into that particular decision in life. I guess I just always assumed that no one used cloth diapers anymore (despite the fact that my own mother told me that she used cloth diapers on both me and my brother), so the biggest decision a parent would have to make in the realm of diapers was what brand to use.

It wasn’t until about a year ago that I realized that not only did people still use cloth diapers on babies (and not just in developing countries, but in the U.S. as well), but that there was something called the “Modern Cloth Diaper”– a diaper that is designed in a similar fashion to a disposable diaper, but is made of cloth instead of paper. In particular, I fell in love with the Smartipants, a one sized, waterproof cloth diaper that was touted as being amazingly easy to use in addition to coming in adorable colors. It was my introduction to this diaper that lead me to simple conclusion that I would never let a chemical filled, paper diaper ever touch my future child’s bottom.

I dove into learning about cloth diapering– how it’s done, what you do with the waste, where to buy them, and how to wash them. I learned the pros and cons, from both sides of the argument, and I met people who used cloth. I entered contests to win diapers, I joined forums to buy used cloth diapers, and I even bought a select few diapers brand new, until I was able to form my “stash.”

I love that cding parents refer to their collection of diapers as their stash! And I love MY stash! I know that, despite the fact that I have more diapers than I will probably ever need and definitely more than I ever set out to end up with, my stash is not complete. I have no diapers for a new born, mostly because I’m afraid I will have massive babies and will never get to use the adorable, teeny tiny diapers, and partly because I hope that I’ll have bigger babies and not have to spend any more on diapers. Cost, though, was a driving factor in cloth diapering one day; My entire stash cost less than $300, and it’s more than enough to diaper a child from birth to potty learning, while only having to wash once every three days (though, I’m sure I won’t go that long).

So, what makes up my stash, you may ask? I’ll show you (kinda. I just put everything away, so I’m not dragging it out to take a picture at this moment):

First and foremost, there’s this lovely little diaper. It was made my a WAHM, but I love it! It’s a stuffable all-in-one:

Then, the diaper that started it all, the Smartipants! I have six of these (in clover, aqua, chocolate, pink, lavender, and blue), and they’re so soft!

Early on, I discovered the Fuzzibunz diaper. It’s a one size diaper similar to the Smartipants, however there are no snaps on the front of it. You can adjust the rise of this diaper using elastics in the legs, which makes them both functional and ridiculously cute and fluffy! I have 10 of these in various colors ranging from pastel yellow to bright orange to neon green and, of course, Laker blue!

Then there are my Bum Genius 3.0’s, the pretentious, kind of full of themselves diaper. Everyone always speaks about the BG3.0 like it’s the king of all diapers, but, honestly, I’m not terribly impressed. They close with aplix, which looks pilly and I imagine are a dream for babies who like to remove their own diapers, but time will tell. These are also one size, pocket diapers, and I have 3 of them in yellow and light green.

One of my favorite diapers (namely because it’s kind of fun to see how small these actually get) is the Wahmies. These are still one size, pocket diapers, but they close using S-hooks that go all around the diaper, allowing them to get unbelievably tiny! I have 7 of these in brown, green, yellow, aqua, and blue.

As you may have noticed, I have gravitated towards one size diapers that also happen to be pocket diapers. This means that these diapers must be stuffed with an insert to be absorbent, but they have the benefit of not having to be bought in several different sizes. The only diaper I’ve ventured to buy in a sized variety has been G-diapers. These are hybrid diapers that consist of a cotton outer shell, a nylon waterproof liner, and can be lined with either cloth or flushable liners. These close with aplix, but uniquely, close in the rear, making it difficult for future nudist children to take them off. I have probably close to 30 of these in various colors and sizes, some of which have been embellished by me. 🙂

Honestly, I’m no expert on cloth diapering and I’ve only actually cloth diapered a real baby a handful of times (a big thank you to Holley for let me use her daughter, Morgan, as a guinea pig!). If you would like more info on cloth diapering, I suggest checking out Dirty Diaper Laundry. Kim has cloth diapering down pat and has so many reviews on cloth diapers! I love her blog!


The emotions of being not-pregnant

Filed under: Personal Post — Stephanie Marie @ 8:22 pm
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There are blogs and books and articles and what have you that are all over the real world and the internet that talk about what you should expect when you’re pregnant that they claim no one tells you about. Well, I want to know why it is that no one finds it necessary to tell you what it’s like to want to become a parent so bad that you can feel the tug on your heart, but one line is all that appears on the little stick each month.

Granted, the husband and I have not been trying in the traditional sense. We do not try every day or every other day, we only really try around the time of ovulation, so I’m not horribly surprised. What I am surprised about is simply how much not being pregnant is effecting me emotionally, and how much I find myself resenting people around me that are pregnant.

I spent the evening organizing the stuff in our baby box (which is kind of a misnomer now as it’s evolved into three drawer sets and several storage boxes that are invading our bookshelves), and I realized that the only things I’m missing are a crib, a carseat, and a baby, and that is a defeating feeling. I’m not sure that there are other people in the world that have gone to such lengths to prepare for having a child that was nothing more than a hope, and it makes me feel horribly alone. Add to that the fact that the Hubband is no where near as excited about the possibility of being parents as I am, although I’m sure that has nothing to do with not wanting a child and everything to do with the fact that he’s a very go-with-the-flow type of person.

I feel left out as everyone announces that they are expecting their own child. I feel like a bitch to read that friends from my childhood cannot have children of their own. I’m so torn and I can’t turn it off.